Class

The other night I was talking to my mom last night about a friend of mine who got married this week. (yep the BBQ I went to on Saturday) How we got on the subject of other people I used to hang out with I’m not sure. But I mentioned 2 old friends that I heard both recently had babies, about a year or so ago. When I said they both had kids and were single moms she said, “Oh surprise, surprise.” I asked her what she meant by that. She said, “Oh its just a cycle. Its like the class of people they come from. Low Class.”  
When I got pregnant with my daughter was my family trying to “save” me from being “low class”? Was it ever really about what was best for me or my daughter? Or just how society would percievce me? Or most importantly my family?? Was that it that terrifying to them that we might be seen as low class because I had a child out of wedlock?
Ironically placing my daughter didn’t change jack. I still didn’t go to college. (took a few classes but no magically degree!!) I work an hourly postion. I live paycheck to paycheck. I still didn’t get married. I don’t have 2.5 kids and live in house with a white picket fence. My boyfriend drives a truck. We hang out in little diner everyone knows your name. I am not middle class. I am who I am. And I am proud of it. And I’m still exactly who I was 9 years ago, maybe a little better.
I asked my mom how she would feel if I got pregnant now. (not that I’m planning to anytime soon!!) She said she would be disappointed. Because I’m still not married. Because I still don’t have a rock on my finger. Because I still don’t have that degree.  I thought, “Oh well, that would be your grandson/daughter.” But ya I know realized, that kid would be so loved by plenty of people………………….without judgement.